"I must be strong"

Asserters are direct, self-reliant, self-confident, and protective.

• Stand up for yourself... and me.


• Be confident, strong, and direct.


• Don't gossip about me or betray my trust.


• Be vulnerable and share your feelings. See and acknowledge my tender,
  vulnerable side.


• Give me space to be alone.


• Acknowledge the contributions I make, but don't flatter me.


• I often speak in an assertive way. Don't automatically assume it's
  a personal attack.


• When I scream, curse, and stomp around, try to remember that's just
  the way I am.

• being independent and self-reliant


• being able to take charge and meet challenges head on


• being courageous, straightforward, and honest


• getting all the enjoyment I can out of life


• supporting, empowering, and protecting those close to me


• upholding just causes

• overwhelming people with my bluntness; scaring them away when I don't
  intend to


• being restless and impatient with others' incompetence


• sticking my neck out for people and receiving no appreciation for it
  


• never forgetting injuries or injustices


• putting too much pressure on myself


• getting high blood pressure when people don't obey the rules or when
  things don't go right

• are independent; have an inner strength and a fighting spirit


• are sometimes loners


• seize control so they won't be controlled


• fugure out others' weaknesses


• attack verbally or physically when provoked


• take charge in the family because they perceive themselves as the strongest,
  or grow up in difficult or abusive surroundings

• are often loyal, caring, involved, and devoted


• are sometimes overprotective


• can be demanding, controlling, and rigid

Renee Baron & Elizabeth Wagele

The Enneagram Made Easy

Discover the 9 Types of People

HarperSanFrancisco, 1994, 161 pages

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